tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6046070760596751755.post960504713647503446..comments2018-02-24T09:56:25.847-07:00Comments on A Miraculous Mess...: Filling the Gap ~ Part 2Jeanenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04039623681679385110noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6046070760596751755.post-84694929883010189112013-04-02T14:27:54.606-06:002013-04-02T14:27:54.606-06:00Thank *you*! And, you are *most* welcome! ;-)Thank *you*! And, you are *most* welcome! ;-)Jeanenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04039623681679385110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6046070760596751755.post-18363191015784182622013-04-02T14:11:31.992-06:002013-04-02T14:11:31.992-06:00Thanks for adding my blog to your list-I'm so ...Thanks for adding my blog to your list-I'm so honored!! I added your blog to my list too! :)<br />Nellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09332543759974959232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6046070760596751755.post-24475381219190600112013-04-02T13:14:00.991-06:002013-04-02T13:14:00.991-06:00Sigh...it is devastating. You are so right...I was...Sigh...it is devastating. You are so right...I was responding to a post today on a forum I frequent and one of the lovely people there said something about foster parenting being much like firefighters going into an emotional burning building, again and again(paraphrase)...she's right...and like fire fighters, we risk our daily lives while doing so...but, as you said, in your last paragraph there..."we'll take the next child..." ...it hit me today...when firefighters going into a burning building to pull someone that they do not even know out...they have no reason to think it will be the last burning building they enter...there is nothing in their "system" that would keep it from happening again. I'm really chewing on that. Because I don't know how many times I have wasted my energy just *willing* it to be different. <br /><br />Hugs...my hat is off to you...you have faced incredible cost for your convictions and continued to put one foot in front of the other day in and day out. My heart cries for yours... I am praying for your family.Jeanenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04039623681679385110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6046070760596751755.post-52450167472042053372013-04-02T12:24:21.649-06:002013-04-02T12:24:21.649-06:00I wish I had been able to read this before startin...I wish I had been able to read this before starting and somehow kept it close in mind through the last couple years. It is hard to be emphatically be told, "They aren't your kids!" when your advocating for one of them turns into an insane number of calls to CPS by a teacher who told CPS, CASA, ISEEYOU, etc that they would do anything so you couldn't adopt or when your toddler is whisked off to the other side of the country to live with fictive kin from whom I now get pictures of my precious baby with a flat effect rather than her beautiful smiles. SO HARD. <br /><br />And everyone else comes ahead of the child and foster parents once the child is removed from their first home. Biological parents, caseworkers, family members, fictive kin, etc. It is about statistics, money, kickbacks, who can have a baby of their own, etc. And we foster parents are just supposed to take it when it goes against our hearts. And we're supposed to let the children we love so dearly pay the consequences of all the adults' decisions. It is SO incredibly hard.<br /><br />And yet, we'll take the next child or set of kids because though their biological parents and the system continue to hurt them so horribly, the children need someone to love them, give them tools to cope, etc on a daily basis. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com